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<p><a href="https://youtu.be/DTFUHNNzdMo">The Sociology of Emotions: Why We Feel What We Feel</a></p>
<p>Emotions are something everyone experiences. We feel happiness, sadness, anger, fear, shame, pride, and many more. Most people think emotions come from deep inside us, something natural or instinctive. For example, we cry when we are sad, laugh when we are happy, or shake when we are scared. But sociology teaches us that emotions are not just personal or biological. They are also social. In simple words, the way we feel, express, and understand emotions is shaped by the society we live in. This idea is what we call the sociology of emotions.</p>
<p>Let us start with an example. Imagine a boy falls down in school and hurts himself. He feels pain and wants to cry. But if he lives in a society where boys are expected to be tough and not show weakness, he may stop himself from crying. Now imagine a girl in the same situation. She may be comforted by others and allowed to cry freely. Even though both feel the same pain, their emotions and reactions are shaped by gender expectations. This is how society influences emotions.</p>
<p>Sociologists believe that emotions are not just inside us. They are also learned through interaction with others. From a young age, we are taught what emotions are appropriate and when it is acceptable to express them. For example, children are taught to say “thank you” even when they may not feel grateful. They are told not to show anger in public or to smile when meeting someone. These rules are not written in a book, but they are taught by parents, teachers, and culture. This learning process is called emotional socialization.</p>
<p>Different cultures have different emotional rules. In some cultures, people express joy loudly and with a lot of energy. In others, people are more reserved and show emotions in subtle ways. For example, crying at a funeral is common in many countries, but in some places, people are expected to stay calm and quiet even in deep sorrow. These cultural differences show that emotions are not only personal, but also deeply social.</p>
<p>One of the most important sociologists who studied emotions was Arlie Hochschild. She introduced the idea of “emotional labor.” This means that in many jobs, people are paid not just to do tasks, but to show certain emotions. For example, flight attendants are expected to smile and be friendly, even if they are tired or upset. Customer service workers must stay calm and polite even when customers are rude. Nurses must show care and sympathy even on stressful days. This emotional labor is a big part of modern work life, and it shows how emotions are controlled and shaped by the demands of society.</p>
<p>Hochschild also talked about something called “feeling rules.” These are social rules that tell us what we should feel in different situations. For example, we are expected to feel happy at weddings, sad at funerals, and excited at parties. If someone does not follow these feeling rules, others may think they are strange or disrespectful. Imagine someone laughing at a funeral or staying quiet at their own birthday party. Society teaches us how to feel through these unwritten emotional expectations.</p>
<p>Sometimes, people even change how they truly feel in order to match what is expected. This is called “surface acting” and “deep acting.” Surface acting is when you fake an emotion, like forcing a smile when you are not happy. Deep acting is when you try to change how you feel inside, like convincing yourself to feel happy at work because your job requires it. Both types of acting show how people manage their emotions to fit in with society’s rules.</p>
<p>Emotions are also linked to social status and power. People in powerful positions often have more control over their emotions and how they express them. A boss may show anger freely in a meeting, while an employee must stay calm and respectful. Rich and poor people may express emotions differently based on what is expected from their social class. This means that emotions are not equal for everyone. They are shaped by our position in society.</p>
<p>Even politics and social movements are full of emotions. When people protest, they are often driven by anger, frustration, or hope. These emotions are not just personal feelings. They are shared by groups of people who believe something is unfair. Emotions like pride, fear, or sadness can bring people together and inspire them to act. This shows that emotions can be powerful tools for social change.</p>
<p>Sociologists also study how media shapes our emotions. When we watch the news, movies, or social media, we are influenced by what we see. If the media constantly shows violent images, we may feel fear or anger. If we see happy and perfect lives on social media, we may feel envy or sadness about our own lives. These emotional reactions are not just natural. They are shaped by what society puts in front of us.</p>
<p>Family plays a big role in teaching emotions. From childhood, we learn from our parents how to react to different situations. Some families encourage open expression, while others teach children to hide their feelings. These early lessons shape how we handle emotions throughout life. Religion, education, and community also guide our emotional behavior. For example, many religions teach people to forgive, be patient, or show love. These teachings affect how we feel and act emotionally.</p>
<p>So when we ask, “Why do we feel what we feel?” the answer is not just biology. It is also sociology. Our emotions are shaped by our culture, gender, race, class, religion, and experiences. They are guided by social norms and expectations. We learn how to feel, when to feel, and what emotions are acceptable.</p>
<p>Understanding the sociology of emotions helps us see that feelings are not just private. They are part of a bigger social picture. When we know this, we become more aware of how emotions are used in different areas of life—from workplaces to politics to relationships. We can also be more kind to ourselves and others. Instead of judging someone for feeling a certain way, we can try to understand what social pressures or life experiences may be behind those feelings.</p>
<p>This knowledge can help us create a more emotionally intelligent and compassionate society. If we understand that emotions are socially shaped, we can work to change the systems that make people feel fear, shame, or sadness. We can build environments where people are free to feel, express, and connect in healthy ways.</p>
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<p><strong>By Khushdil Khan Kasi</strong></p>
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